What really matters?

Hello all!

It has been so long since I’ve blogged that I almost forgot how to do it. I wanted to give everyone a quick update on my life and photography adventures. A lot has happened in the last few months in our household, our daughter turned 11 which just blows my mind, our son has entered his very last year as an elementary student. Let’s let this sink in… in a year I will have a high school student in my home! We have now started visiting high school open houses and bracing ourselves to a new normal. My husband and I are gearing up to celebrate 15 years together! Time is just flying by way too fast for my liking, which is why I have decided to place a hold on my photography life.

As some of you may know, though family life has been great, we suffered an incredible loss just two months ago. We lost our beloved grandma, great grandma and family matriarch. I will not go into great detail as how this loss has affected us because it cannot be put into words. But with this loss I was able to put my family life into perspective. Over the past 6 years of photography I have met so many wonderful “clients” who have become friends, they are always loyal and trusting with our vision and thankful for our time we have spent at our sessions. However, I have also unfortunately met people who have dis valued my time and effort put into their sessions. Luckily this number is low, however it does still exist. In the past, I could brush them off as “not my ideal client” however an incident happened recently that really made me reevaluate my time I put into this photography business.

 I had spoken to a new perspective client, we confirmed a location, time and look of their session. At the time, I was dealing with personal matters with my grandma but had agreed to this session weeks before and my work ethic is not one that allows me to cancel on clients. So, I made arrangements allowing me to attend this session on time and prepared.  I arrived to the confirmed location ten minutes early so I could prepare my equipment and waited… fifteen minutes went by and I called the person with no answer. Thirty minutes went by and I phoned again with no answer. Finally, after forty-five minutes, I sent one last text advising the client that I was leaving the location. I have never done this or have been placed in this situation. I called one last time with no answer and sent an email letting the client know what happened just in case they showed up and I was not there. To this day I have never heard back from this person, not even an email apologizing for their actions. This event hit me like a ton of bricks because that day, that evening that I planned to keep my promise was the evening my grandma came home and was placed into hospice care. She passed away 24 hours later.

As I suffered this loss, I thought to myself “What are you doing?”. Here I was personally going through the biggest loss I have endured and I was putting work ahead of all that we were experiencing because I made a promise to someone who did not value my time. Because of this, I have decided that I am taking a major cut on the amount of photography jobs I take on in the future. For the first time in 3 years I will not be holding a mini marathon for those great family photos. I have declined numerous weddings and new perspective clients because I need to make sure I am not placed in a situation where a person is not valuing my time away from my family.

I will still hold sessions for my loyal clients because I know they are the real deal, they are the people who value me as a person and don’t just see me as a girl with a “good camera”. I may warm up to the idea of mini marathons in the spring or take on new clients in the future. But as of now I am taking on few projects and really taking time to be in the moment with my family.


I hope you all understand and to the client who ghosted me, I thank you. You helped me see what really matters.